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Analyzing the synastry between two people is not only a pleasure for many astrologers. Even if we otherwise have little to do with astrology, it quickly arouses our curiosity. After all, who
doesn't ask themselves at some point, whether it's a new acquaintance or a long-term relationship, whether it “really fits”?
In synastry, simply put, the horoscopes of two people are layed over on each other. This reveals which personality aspects harmonize and which may cause friction. Synastry also provides insights
into which themes and areas of life are at the forefront of the relationship.
This method can be very revealing. It can bring to light unconscious dynamics in a relationship or, in the course of self-reflection, help you understand what influence past relationships
actually had. A practical tool in other words. However, caution is advised.
Sometimes we are only too keen to look into the future - to know what is coming - or to get answers from life as to what is right. If we are looking for answers in synastry, it is essential to
first understand the individual birth charts of the two people.
Why?
We must not forget that astrology is a tool that makes subconscious dynamics visible. It is not fortune telling. We are therefore welcome to take a practical approach. Because let's take a step
back from astrology and ask ourselves:
- What good is a partner who is a perfect match for you in the way they speak, think and feel - but is unable to reflect on themselves? Does that make sense?
- Why should a partner not be considered for you just because they think differently - but have respect and curiosity for your point of view? Does that make sense?
Probably not, because it doesn't seem to be quite that simple. And that brings us to the problem of synastry:
It merely expresses the dynamic between two people.
However, it is silent about the relationship skills of the individuals.
A healthy partnership is based on compatibility, and probably the most universally valid compatibility factor is that a person is willing and able to have a
relationship in the first place. This includes, for example, the ability and willingness to see, listen to and understand another person. This includes the willingness to work as
a team. It includes the desire to build a genuine connection with another person. And probably also the courage to sometimes confront your own problems if they have an impact on the relationship.
We discover these things - which we can summarize as the individual individual's ability to relate - in a different way. If we stay with astrology, we recommend taking a look at a person's birth
chart. It gives us an insight into what needs a person carries with them, how their attachment behaviour is characterized, what their capacity for empathy looks like and much more.
But it is also important here: It shows our natural disposition. How a person deals with this and how much awareness they have of themselves is another matter.
A person's birth chart is therefore clearly suitable for an assessment of whether it “could fit”. The synastry can then also be used, as the framework is now visible.
Nevertheless, it should be mentioned again at this point that looking at horoscopes is always a tool for making a better decision.
However, the horoscopes themselves are not a decision. At the end of the day, basing decisions solely on astrology would be an escape from
the responsibility of making an independent decision - and that is not what we are looking for.
That's why I'd like to give you a very simple practical tip at this point, which is unfortunately often practiced far too rarely: exchange ideas.
If you are unsure whether a person is right for you, ask them questions and listen to them. A few approaches:
- How important is it to you to understand your partner?
- How do you deal with conflict situations?
- Do you want to be seen and heard by another person?
- Does the idea of making decisions together feel good to you?
- What do you do when someone has a different point of view to you?
Listen and find out how this person approaches relationships. Be curious, open and non-judgmental. If something irritates you, ask questions. You will quickly find out how interested a person is
in exploring such topics - or not. And this will quickly give you a sense of whether it feels right for you. Because in the end, only you can say that: You
know yourself best, even if it might not feel like it sometimes.
To summarize, synastry is a great tool for uncovering subconscious dynamics and understanding how two people interact with each other. However, it alone does not provide any information as to
whether a partnership between two people really works or is desirable. That's why it always makes sense to take a look at the birth charts of both people first, and at the end of the day, as is
so often the case, talking helps:
Talking. Because this creates a real interface between two people.