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Author: Christina Rohde (learn more)
📖 Read this article in English → Wie klare, echte Intentionen unser Leben verändern
In life, we tend to focus quickly on the “what”: what we want to do, what we want to have, what we want to experience. Once we know that - or think we know it - we jump straight to the
“how”: how can I achieve this, what might a shortcut look like, how can this be made possible.
What we sometimes overlook is the “why.” And while it may sound trivial at first - understanding why we want to do something (after all, it doesn’t stop us from acting, right?) - it actually
holds enormous significance.
Because behind our “why” lie our intentions - and these often shape our lives more than we initially think possible. Let’s go through it step by step:
1. Intentions create the space for the possibilities we will experience in reality.
Intentions rarely begin in the mind. And when they do, it’s good to question whether that’s truly our own voice - or a foreign one that has taken root within us from the outside (the voice is
usually foreign when it speaks of “should” or even “must”).
Our true, genuine intentions arise where we become honest with ourselves:
- What do I really want?
- What is my need? My truth?
- What do I want to give - what do I want to have - what do I want to let go of?
The clearer we are about our intentions—and the more genuine they become as a result - the more we create a space filled with the possibilities we truly want.
In principle, it’s quite simple. You can think of it like a compass:
If we point it north because we know that’s where we truly feel comfortable (clear intention) - then we end up in the north, and thus where we truly feel at ease.
However, if we point it south because we think we should feel comfortable there - then we end up in the south accordingly. And out of nowhere, we find ourselves in a place where
we think we should feel comfortable - but we simply don’t.
There is a world of difference between truly wanting something and merely thinking we want it. Both in terms of intention and in the consequences in our physical lives. One liberates us - the
other distances us from ourselves.
So our intentions are the first step toward bringing our inner selves into harmony with our outer reality. And in doing so, we enable ourselves to build a life that truly feels
like our own.
2. Pure intentions create clarity—unclear intentions create confusion.
The clearer our intentions are, the clearer the consequences. This, too, has nothing to do with magic, but simply with the fact that we shape our lives with what we bring into them.
If we don’t really know why we do something, life will reflect exactly that back to us. Because other people will sense it subconsciously - sometimes even consciously. Because our entire self-expression is in a state of imbalance that, while not obvious, is palpable:
- We talk, but we don’t really speak.
- We do something, but we don’t truly act.
- We want something - but somehow we actually want something else.
So if we experience a lot of uncertainty, friction, conflict, or unwanted situations in life, it’s worth taking a look inside ourselves: pausing to consider whether these confusions have less to
do with the outside world and more to do with ourselves. Because most of the time, our external world merely reflects something we’ve long been experiencing inside. Or to put it
another way: If we don’t know where we’re headed - life doesn’t know either.
3. Honest and authentic intentions build trust.
We are not isolated beings. Whether we humans like it or not - none of us can truly survive independently of other people. Our interpersonal relationships shape our entire lives, whether they
involve a romantic partner, family, friends, coworkers, or everyday acquaintances.
The more honest we become with our intentions, the more honest we become toward other people. We create a space in which we clearly show:
- This is who I am.
- This is what I can offer.
- This is what I want to offer.
- This is where I draw the line.
- This is what I need.
When we show ourselves as we are, we allow others to find us - people who resonate with us and are a good fit. And at the same time, by showing ourselves as we are, we create a space where
genuine trust and connection can actually begin to form.
(A quick note here: This doesn’t mean it’s always good or right to blindly trust people or open up completely. Conscious self-protection - for example, in the form of reserve or
healthy skepticism - is also an honest and authentic intention.)
Conclusion: Intentions describe our own active role in shaping our lives.
Every clear intention is like a silent resolution that sets something in motion. The more we decide to truly see our intentions - to recognize, accept, and live them - the more clearly we shape
the space of our possibilities. And the more we experience our lives in a way that feels right for us.
To lead a conscious life in which we truly perceive what is happening and what is real, it is therefore essential to understand our own intentions.