We often assume that other people perceive the world in much the same way we do. If we are someone who can empathize with other living beings, we instinctively assume that other people can do the same. We usually don’t even question it, because to us it’s simply “normal.”
When we find ourselves in a situation where someone close to us hurts us with their behavior, we usually have a very healthy impulse at first: We want to explain what hurt us.
In life, we tend to focus quickly on the “what”: what we want to do, what we want to have, what we want to experience. Once we know that—or think we know it—we jump straight to the “how”: how can I achieve this, what might a shortcut look like, how can this be made possible.